Playing with dolls and raising a caring son

Thanks to its Super Bowl ad (below), you likely are aware of Goldieblox, the toy company that encourages girls to pursue scientific and mathematical based careers.

While I admire Goldieblox’s mission, watching that commercial made me wonder if an ad featuring young boys pretending to nurture a doll or stuffed animal would be met with such acclaim.

Picture it for a moment, a commercial with a toddler cradling his dolly while pretending to feed her, or one with a seven-year-old nursing his “sick” toy puppy back to health. We all know boys do play like this sometimes, but in my lifetime I can’t recall a single toy company promoting nurturing behavior to boys.

The idea that a boy could grow up to become the primary caretaker of his children is still so strange that a photo of a father fixing his daughter’s hair elicited such a negative response from men (and women) whose views on masculinity and fatherhood are founded in resentment and hostility.

Do I think we should force boys to play with dolls, no. But, I we need to stop labeling such behavior as “unmanly,” and let them explore their nurturing side. As a woman, I am offended that acts of kindness and caring, most often associated with “girl” toys are seen as weak.

Yes, it is wonderful that girls are taught to be critical thinkers, but even if there are fewer female engineers and researchers, they are admired. Whereas, the same admiration is rarely afforded to male nurses or nannies.

Maybe one day when a boy asks for a doll, his parents won’t have to feel embarrassed looking in the “girlie” aisle and instead can find something nestled between the toy guns and building sets.

3 thoughts on “Playing with dolls and raising a caring son

  1. Samantha

    I 100% agree with what your saying. I have a soon to be 16 month old son and recently bought him a blue and grey play kitchen. My husband wasn’t thrilled and my mother-in-law was basically horrified. I don’t get the fear…men are chefs and pasty chefs and even my husband enjoys cooking for us so why isn’t it ok for a boy to pretend to cook? It’s not like I gave him a pink apron and high heels (and if he asks me for those things later on I wouldn’t think twice…whatever makes him smile)


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