Scrolling through my Instagram feed the other day, I came across a video featuring a well-known motivational speaker, who this person is doesn’t matter, as the message shared is pretty much the same for the lot of them:
“I worked hard, came from nothing, did this all on my own, became successful, and you can too, if you just tried.”
At face value, this is an encouraging sentiment, and provides us with that “can-do” attitude we need to achieve our dreams.
Yet. when we dig deeper, we find that success is never achieved in an isolated vacuum, and this message is dangerous no matter what you are pursuing, but it is especially true for parents — women and mothers in particular — who are taught we most work harder, better and smarter, with little or no help from society at large, because this is the American way.
Suck it up, pull up those proverbial “bootstraps,” and do what you gotta do.
This toxic message roots itself deep in our psyche and tells us that asking for help is a sign of weakness. Continue reading